New Year’s Resolutions for Those Considering or Seeking a Separation or Divorce in 2018

The New Year is a time to start fresh, with a clean slate and with a list of goals to accomplish in the upcoming months. It’s also a time when people take a hard look on their lives and make decisions of about what you want your future to look like.

For those who have taken a hard look at their marriage and determined that a future together is not possible, Triangle Divorce Lawyers has a list of resolutions to guide you through this difficult and confusing time. This time can be incredibly overwhelming with so many unknowns.

The first resolution you must adhere to is to EDUCATE YOURSELF. If you are thinking about separation or divorce, the first step is to educate yourself on your rights, obligations, procedures and practices of prudently executed separation and divorce. This includes custody, child support, post separation spousal support, alimony, equitable distribution and absolute divorce. At Triangle Divorce Lawyers, we suggest starting with a case review. This cost effective meeting allows you the opportunity for a professional to review your case and help guide you to make the right decisions for your particular scenario. Avoid seeking legal advice about your case and family law from friends, colleagues or law enforcement. The education you receive about YOUR case should come directly from an attorney to avoid confusion. Your attorney is not only educated on the legal processes but will tell you the truth about the future expectations of your case.

The next step will greatly help manage your stress and emotions. GET ACTIVE and do what makes you happy. The actions of being physically active cause triggers in the brain to release endorphins and endorphins make you happy. It’s a great way to keep your emotions under control during this stressful time.

One of the hardest resolutions to adhere to during this process is to FORGIVE. This means forgiving your spouse and yourself. It takes two to tango, and while it easy to blame, finding a way to forgive can make the process less painful. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from the negativity, regardless of how justified it may be.

It’s very easy during this time to bad mouth the other party or parties involved, but you must AVOID DISPARAGING YOUR SPOUSE/EX TO OTHERS. Speaking ill of someone won’t help your situation, and can make your case more difficult. Don’t speak negatively of your spouse/ex to anyone, especially your children. They are going through enough, don’t burden them with more.

HAVE FUN & BE SOCIAL because this time can be isolating and lonely, take time to just enjoy life outside of your family problems. Have a night out with friends, go to a public event such as concert or sporting event and simply be social. This is an opportunity to escape the stresses surrounding your legal issues, even if it doesn’t directly benefit your case. Having a clear mind will not only help you think clearly through the process but will help to make it less overwhelming.

SEEK COUNSELING OR THERAPY during this time to help you emotionally cope with the feelings you will experience during this time. While hanging out with friends and loved ones during this time can help get your mind off the problems, seeking counseling or therapy from a professional can help you talk through your emotions, help you understand them better and cope properly.