If your life is changing because you are separating or going through child custody changes, what choices do you have to get your alimony in place or to keep your retirement? Do you have to go to court? Maybe not!
One of the alternatives to litigation is mediation, which can resolve your family issues such as custody, financial support, and property division. At Triangle Divorce Lawyers, our skilled, trained, and experienced mediators can help your family make the decisions that you all feel are best for you.
The mediator will meet with both of you either in one long session or in a few smaller sessions, based upon your preference and the complexity of the discussions.
“A good settlement is better than a good lawsuit.”
– Abraham Lincoln
Mediation is extremely popular and widely accepted by the court and by attorneys. Many of our cases at Triangle Divorce Lawyers use some type of mediation to settle the case. Also, mediation is a tool you may be required to use if you are going to court. Court calendars are full, and it takes months to get to trial. In an effort to relieve the court docket and to encourage settlement, the court requires you to attend custody mediation through their in-house mediation program as soon as you file a custody lawsuit. The court also requires you to attend mediation for equitable distribution (property division) claims with a mediator of your choice. The court also has volunteer mediators for the day to help parties revolve some disputes while waiting for their case to be heard that day.
“The courts of this country should not be the places where resolution of disputes begins. They should be the places where the disputes end after alternative methods of resolving disputes have been considered and tried.”
– Sandra Day O’Connor
The process is based on reaching agreement and compromise.
Pro se mediation is not right for couples where one person dominates or bullies the other, or if a participant cannot advocate for his or her own interests in the sessions. In that case, mediation for represented parties or collaborative process may be a better fit.
Mediation also requires both people to agree to resolve their dispute through this process, try to resolve issues together, and make a good faith effort at mediation. If one person is not on board with the process, then mediation may not be the right way to settle your matters and you may need litigation. We are happy to talk to both of you so the other person can learn more about the process and have questions answered.
“You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need.”
– Mick Jagger
Call us today to find out more about divorce mediation through Triangle Divorce Lawyers!