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Five Tips to Improve Co-Parenting During Your Separation and Divorce

by Michael Garner, One-eighty Counseling

Life did not turn out the way you had expected it. You are heart-broken, angry, and for some, maybe even a little relieved that the relationship is over. Your ‘happily ever after’ story has ended in a separation. However difficult, you know you still have to work together with your ex regarding your children. Being a single parent is not easy, and can be down right exhausting at times. It is hard knowing you have less time with your children while also knowing you have ‘no control’ over what happens at the other house. This can be extremely frustrating and anxiety provoking. However, with some help, the co-parenting relationship may help lighten the load. Remember a few key points when it comes to co-parenting.

 

1. The relationship ended, not your role as a parent

 

2. Your primary focus has to shift

 

3. You can still co-parent successfully, despite your differences

 

4. Never put the kids in the middle

 

5. Say only positive things about your child’s other co-parent

 

The relationship has ended, but your role as a parent has not. You still have a high responsibility to help raise your kids to the best of your ability. Your attention now shifts to your children. This will be a trying time for everyone, but you have to focus on what is best for your children as well as taking care of yourself. Despite the frustrations of the events, you have to do what is best for the kids and be willing to put aside your differences to focus on the children. Protect your children, allow your kids to be kids and never put them in the middle of your conflict. They have enough going on as they attempt to figure out this new normal. Finally, one of the most important pieces is to stay positive and keep the negativity away from your children. All the negativity may unknowingly push them away from you.

 

As you can see, being a single parent can be extremely difficult, but if both parents can put their differences aside and mutually agree to do what is best for their children, you will see tremendous results. Your children will adapt to this change much quicker and with more security and comfort knowing that both parents continue to love and care for them.

What to do When you Suspect Your Spouse is Concealing Marital Assets from You

By Steven Fultonberg CPA/CVA

No one likes to imagine that someone is purposely deceiving them or hiding information from them, especially if such actions involve concealing assets in a marriage. If your spouse is becoming more secretive, erasing trails of certain shared finances and concealing marital assets, it could be a sign that that they are preparing for a pending separation or divorce. Such actions are unethical and potentially illegal. Whether or not you believe your spouse is capable of such wrongdoings, consider the chance that they are doing such and take a proactive approach to getting a definitive answer.

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New Year’s Resolutions for Those Considering or Seeking a Separation or Divorce in 2018

The New Year is a time to start fresh, with a clean slate and with a list of goals to accomplish in the upcoming months. It’s also a time when people take a hard look on their lives and make decisions of about what you want your future to look like.

For those who have taken a hard look at their marriage and determined that a future together is not possible, Triangle Divorce Lawyers has a list of resolutions to guide you through this difficult and confusing time. This time can be incredibly overwhelming with so many unknowns.

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Top 7 Tips to Co-Parenting

Co-parenting takes the effort of both parents to be effective. Check out these 7 tips on effective co-parenting.
1.      Be flexible with schedules.  Your child’s life revolves around family, school and extracurriculars, and benefits when involved with special events at both households.  Keep an open mind about allowing the child to visit when out of town family is here, or there is a family reunion during the summer.  Trade a day to the other parent’s custodial time in order to take an extended weekend at the beach. Negotiate with the other parent so that your cooperation is reciprocated, and keep track of the overnights so that you still end up with the same number at the end of the year.
2.     Communicate directly with the other parent. Do not rely on your child to be the messenger, but instead set up a steady and healthy written dialogue about the child’s major events.

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Your Child’s Divorce

Divorce is a difficult topic to discuss, but in a society where 40%-50% of married couples in the United States, according to the American Psychological Association, end up in divorce, it is inevitable not to discuss it.

Children of divorced families have their own experience compared to the those getting divorced.  Often times because the adults are so focused on dissolving the marriage, separating property, finances and determining custody arrangements if children are involved, the emotional impact that it has on children can be overlooked.  Did you know that during a divorce, children can experience a range of emotions/behaviors from anger and aggression to sadness and withdrawal, along with a number of other emotional and behavioral responses.

During the emotional turmoil of a divorce, some children go into protective mode and try to protect their parents which can mimic them being stable or well-adjusted to the chaos that is happening around them, when in reality the child may be suffering internally and putting on a brave face for their parents.  Below are a few warning signs to be on the lookout for when your family is going through a divorce and tips to help your child through this difficult time.

Warning Signs

-Isolation

-Increase in mood swings

-Decrease/Increase in eating

-Increase/Decrease in sleeping

 

Tips for helping your child

-Allowing children to express their thoughts/feelings

-Avoid having detailed conversations about the divorce in front the them

-Avoid talking negatively about the other parent

-Remember that even though the marriage is dissolving, your child’s relationship with their parent will continue

When children are finally brought to me, I’ve noticed that they finally feel that someone is listening to them, and how the divorce is impacting them. They often feel more at ease with expressing these feelings to their parents.  Below is a list of responses throughout my years of experience in working with children and how they felt about their families’ divorce.

 

“I felt like I couldn’t talk about my dad in front of my mom” …. Anonymous

“I felt like my family life before the divorce was a lie” …. Anonymous

“I felt like I had to choose a side” …. Anonymous

 

If you’re a parent going through a divorce and you recognize any of the warnings signs, and/or you’re just concerned and want to be proactive in your child’s emotional wellbeing, feel free to contact me for a free 15 min phone consultation to discuss how you can help your child remain emotionally healthy throughout the process.

 

Gretchen Campbell  MA, LPC Licensed Professional Counselor

 

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How To: Hide Your Web Browsing Activity (Part 1)

Hiding Your Web Browsing History is pretty important when you are researching sensitive topics like divorce, finding a new place to stay, or anything that might let your spouse know that you are considering action that would affect your marriage.   Keeping your research hidden isn't as easy as just using your phone!  

Today we're going to focus on how to hide your traffic on Google Chrome on the Desktop.  These instructions are good for both Windows and Mac computers.

Use ​an Incognito Window

Google Chrome is a fast and secure browser for the Desktop and mobile.  Marshall, our IT guru, recommends using Google Chrome.  Incognito Mode is a way to browse the internet that does not save any of your browsing history to your computer.  This is an important note.  If your spouse has taken steps to monitor your actions by installing software on your household router, or you are browsing the web at work your traffic can still be monitored.  We'll get to that part later in this series.  For now, this is the easiest step you can take. 

How to use Incognito Mode on Mac and PC Desktops

  1. If you don't  have it installed download Google Chrome and install it on your computer
  2. When you have it installed, launch Google Chrome, click the three dots menu in the upper right hand corner and click "New Incognito Window"
  3. Browse to any website you would like to keep private.  Remember that you should not bookmark anything you don't want your spouse to see.  
  4. You may Google or Visit any site and know that it won't be in your browsing history. 
  5. Make sure to close this window when you are done. 

What if I've Already Browsed on My Computer without Incognito Mode?

This is a great question!  Don't worry.  We've got you.  Below we have several common browsers and how to clear your history.  

You may clear your browsing history in various browsers using by reading the following articles:

Stay Tuned for our Next Article on Securing All Browsing Hisotry using VPN! 

Need More Help?

Our IT Guru is available to help you secure your computers, personal data, and give you ways to protect your data.  You may contact Marshall by visiting his site here: Zen Media Social. ​ He is available for both in person and remote consulting. 

Triangle Divorce Lawyers Named a 2016 Law Firm 500 Honoree

 

We are pleased to announce that our law firm has been named a 2016 Law Firm 500 Honoree. Earlier this year we were nominated for our growth, operational excellence and commitment to client service. It is an honor to be included as one of the top one-hundred fastest growing law firms in America.

At this time, we would like to use this opportunity to thank our loyal clients and partners who have supported us as we have grown. “We strive to maintain an intimate yet professional environment that offers exceptional legal services. Our firm is a boutique practice without the big price tag.”

“At Triangle Divorce Lawyers, we are committed to helping you through your divorce or family law matter confidently and with as little disruption as possible. We focus our practice entirely on legal issues affecting families, such as divorce, legal separation, child custody agreements, child support, alimony and more. Our years of experience allow us to provide effective strategies that can help you move forward into the life you want and deserve. We will be with you every step of the way, whether your issue is simple or complex and whether it requires litigation or can be handled through settlement or an alternative method of dispute resolution.”

As we continue to grow we encourage you to follow our progress, and stay in touch!

You can view the full list of Law Firm 500 Honoree firms here: https://lawfirm500.com/award-honorees/

 

Lessons from high-profile divorces

North Carolina fans of actor Johnny Depp may have followed news of his divorce from Amber Heard. Depp is also selling off some of the paintings from his art collection, but insiders say it is probably not related to the divorce. Depp and Heard married in California, a community property state, and the marriage only lasted 15 months. Depp has been collecting the paintings since the 1990s, so it is unlikely they would be considered marital property. However, there are circumstances in which a divorce would prompt just such a sale although it is important that a person who is doing so does not attempt to sell the assets for less than they are worth to reduce the marital estate’s value.

Some people may try to avoid litigation because they want to avoid a lengthy divorce battle or would like to avoid the publicity. Divorce involves having to share financial information, and a high-profile couple might prefer to keep that information private. For example, a former head of General Electric found himself investigated by the Securities and Exchange Commission after the details of his retirement package worth more than $2.5 million annually that came out during the proceedings appeared in the media.

On the other hand, some couples cannot afford to divorce. The cost of renting separate homes or paying health insurance may be too steep, making them decide after all to stay together.

A person’s financial situation can have a profound effect on how certain divorce legal issues such as property division are approached. A family law attorney can often take that into account when negotiating a comprehensive settlement agreement.

Preparing for divorce negotiations

North Carolina couples who are ending their marriages need to be ready for some changes. Divorces can have a significant impact on a person’s finances for years after the settlement is reached. Apart from the financial strain that a divorce can induce, negotiations over matters such as custody and visitation can be very stressful.

People should try to prepare themselves for negotiations and court appearances by gathering as much information and evidence as they can. All account numbers and passwords for financial accounts should be saved along with copies of vital documents. The contents of the marital home should also be assessed and photographed because these assets will likely need to be divided.

Divorcing people may be able to save time and money by listening to the advice of people who have already gone through a similar experience. While every divorce is different, they may have learned some valuable lessons from their mistakes that they can pass on. One lesson that many divorced people learn is that it is sometimes better to settle quickly than to argue over every last detail. Divorces are negotiations, and each side usually has to give up something in order to reach an agreement.

Before property division negotiations begin, a family law may help a client determine what assets are worth fighting for and which ones are not all that important. Some marital property is far more sentimental to one party than financially valuable to the other, and this can often be taken into account as a possible negotiating tactic. Once an accord is reached, the remaining legal issues can be addressed in a comprehensive agreement.

Summer Tax Checklist

Written By: David Amiss, CPA, CVA

Carr, Riggs & Ingram, CPAs and Advisors

 

New Year’s Resolutions and Spring Cleaning are initiatives that focus on motivating individuals to address a perceived need. Accordingly, the aim of this article is twofold. First, to convince you of the perceived need of giving your taxes adequate attention on the eve of summer; and second, to give you a list of things to consider and do related to taxes.

New Year’s Resolutions and Spring Cleaning are initiatives that focus on motivating individuals to address a perceived need. Accordingly, the aim of this article is twofold. First, to convince you of the perceived need of giving your taxes adequate attention on the eve of summer; and second, to give you a list of things to consider and do related to taxes.

Visit any of your local CPA’s office and the examples would be replete of clients engaging in a significant transaction and informing their CPA subsequent to executing the transaction. ‘If only we would have talked to you before’ or some variation thereof is what typically ensues after the first of the year when the client comes in to drop off their tax information. The resulting conversation reveals that the CPA could’ve saved their client significant amounts of cash had they been informed of the transaction prior to its execution.

That example may sound a bit dramatic. However, that which is true with significant amounts of cash is also true with lesser amounts of cash. Further, the benefits to engaging your CPA at multiple times of the year, as well as, prior to major decisions have other benefits as well, just as visiting your doctor and dentist does.

With that said, and hopefully the importance thereof established, what are some things to consider on the eve of summer? First things first, finalize your 2015 tax return. For those that have requested an extension of time to file their tax returns, acquire the necessary data to complete the tax return and provide it to your CPA. For the most part, you know now what it will take to finalize your tax return. Move quickly to complete it. Completing the tax return now has several benefits, including but not limited to allowing you to move forward to focus on a year you can plan for and assessing your 2015 tax return which brings us to the next ‘to do’.

As with most anything, a prudent response to your 2015 tax return is to evaluate it. What went well? What didn’t go well? Did your return match your expectations? Did your return match your plan and or, if applicable, your projection? Did you learn anything about your tax return? Were you made aware of opportunities moving forward? Are you confident in the competence and care that you’ve received from your CPA? These questions are a good start towards evaluating your 2015 tax return in hopes of making improvements for 2016, which leads to our next task.

Once you’ve tied a bow on the 2015 tax return it’s time to turn our attention to 2016 and beyond. Some of the leg work should have already been completed with our evaluation of the 2015 tax return. For those run of the mill components to your return such as wages, interest, dividends and other annual recurring revenue, are you satisfied with your payment of estimated taxes and subsequent liability or refund? Are your withholding and/or estimated taxes adequate for your tax liability? Do you typically owe tax or receive a refund when you file a return? Are you satisfied with those results? Are you aware that you potentially could be subject to penalties on the underpayment of estimated taxes? Further, are you aware that if you don’t pay your total tax liabilities by the due date in April you will be subject to additional penalties and interest? Now, to be sure, some individuals are aware of and content to pay penalties and interest as a result of paying their taxes later. This is due to the fact that they have the ability to use the cash now in such a way as to derive a return greater than the penalties and interest creates. If this matches your prerogative, that is certainly fine. The aim of this article however, is awareness to those facts to enable proactive planning and reducing surprises.

Another strategy is to give consideration to future transactions that you can begin planning for now. Thinking of the pieces to the puzzle now will have a direct impact on your future cash flow. There are numerous tax strategies that can be employed to minimize tax liabilities. Further, potential transactions can be structured in such a way to further reduce liabilities.

This time of the year is also a good time to make adjustments to wage withholding in order to avoid underpayments or excess refunds. Additionally, the June 15th due date for second quarter estimated tax payments is fast approaching. Be sure to pay in an appropriate amount by this date. Furthermore, if you’ve extended your tax return you may need to double up and pay for first and second quarter estimated tax payments to avoid estimated tax penalties.

Lastly, consider making aware and introducing the various professionals you work with, such as attorney, CPA, financial planner, etc. with one another. These are the trusted individuals in your lives that are charged with caring for you and your posterity to various degrees. It’s helpful for these professionals to know one another in order that they may act with prudence and efficiency when called upon.

I hope that this article has illuminated the need to be engaged in your tax situation on the eve of summer, as well as throughout the year. Additionally, that there are some specific tasks that you can address in the here and now. Finally, that in doing so you’ll receive multiple benefits which will be the proverbial ‘proof in the pudding’ of this call to action.